Week 1

  • Counselling

Sometimes we all have problems that are worrying. Counselling is the opportunity for young people to talk about things that concern them.  What is spoken about will depend on the individual, but common themes are stress, relationships, change, loss and distressing traumatic events. Think of a confusing jigsaw when all the pieces are difficult to match together.  Talking about a problem in counselling is like sorting out all the pieces so we can begin to build a picture that makes more sense to us.

A key feature of our service is that information discussed in the counselling session is treated confidentially.  Counselling is a time when it’s OK to talk about concerns without the fear of them being discussed elsewhere.  This includes not discussing the work with parents unless the young person requests or gives consent for this.  This can be hard for parent to accept at times, but ensuring confidentiality of the work is crucial for establishing trust so that young people feel confident to speak openly and freely about what is concerning them. However, if a young person appears to be at risk of significant harm it may be appropriate to seek help from our Safeguarding team.

Parental support is very welcome.  Our experience shows that the most useful thing a parent can do is to show acceptance of counselling as a normal and useful activity and to show an interest if their son/daughter wishes to talk about it, but not to press if they don’t.  We acknowledge that this isn’t an easy task and it is quite natural for parents to feel anxious about what is being said in the sessions.  It is always our hope that talking with a counsellor will lead to greater openness with parents and families, you will need to allow a little time for this to happen.

The Ramsey Academy Counselling Service consists of qualified and student counsellors, overseen by Julia Speechley MBACP (Accred).   The student counsellors are in their final year of study and are on placement from either Essex University, Anglian Ruskin University or Contemporary College in London. All counsellors receive supervision of their work with young people, to ensure the quality of their practice and this is confidential.

Referrals to the service can be made through the Pastoral Team at the Academy. However, you are always welcome to contact Julia Speechley directly for a chat about the service or for signposting to other support agencies. 01787 472481 Ext 246, This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or, for students, a note in the post box outside Julia’s room.

Some useful links for support are:

Action for Family Carers
Support for Young carers between the age of 8 to 18.

British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists 
Find a therapist.

Barnardo's helps the most vulnerable children and young people transform their lives and fulfil their potential. Our website will tell you more about what we do and our work with children and young people as well as how you can help us to continue our work. 

Here you will find information and help on all aspects of eating disorders including Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder and related eating disorders. 

Childhood Bereavement Network 
Multiprofessional national federation working to ensure that all children and young people in the UK can easily access a choice of high quality local and national information, guidance and support to enable them to manage the impact of death on their lives.

Children's Legal Centre
The Children's Legal Centre is a unique, independent national charity concerned with law and policy affecting children and young people. The Children's Legal Centre has many years of experience in providing legal advice and representation to children, their carers and professionals throughout the UK.

Every Mind Matters: https://www.nhs.uk/oneyou/every-mind-matters/?WT.tsrc=Search&WT.mc_id=Brand&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIu9Wnur_37AIVSOztCh2Q_gN3EAAYASAAEgJLsPD_BwE

Support at Harmless providing a range of services about self-harm including support, information, training and consultancy to people who Self Harm.

Support for parents and young people counselling, coaching, mediation, mentoring, young people risky behaviour.

Kidscape is committed to keeping children safe from abuse. Kidscape is the only national charity dedicated to preventing bullying and child sexual abuse. Kidscape believes that protecting children from harm is key. 

The NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) is the UK's leading charity specialising in child protection and the prevention of cruelty to children. We have been directly involved in protecting children and campaigning on their behalf since 1884. A regular newsletter (CASPAR) can be accessed through their website. 

Relate children and young people’s counselling service is for any young person who is having problems at home. Our counsellors are able to help you to talk about the things that are worrying you. Children and young people tell us that seeing a Relate counsellor helps because they are independent from either your school or home life. Our counsellors help you to talk honestly and openly and can support you with problems like family breakdown; moving in with a second family; or bullying at school.

STEM: https://stem4.org.uk/ Supporting Teenage Mental Health

The Hideout
The Hideout is the first national website for children and young people to inform about domestic violence, to help them identify whether it is happening in their home and to provide indirect and informal support to children and young people living with domestic violence.

Young Minds
Young Minds is a national charity committed to improving the mental health of all children and young people.